Brett Rossi

0:00Brett Rossi Everyone be like, oh, in the private jet. Yeah. Who cares about that? I behind a dumpster, man. Oh.

0:04Alexis Texas Yeah. That was so cool. Standing doggy?

0:06Brett Rossi Yeah. He was in Steel Panther, which, like, not like it's a big deal. But, anyways... Red flag. Band member.

0:12Brett Rossi Member.

0:24Alexis Texas Hello. Hello. Hello. It's private talk with Alexis Texas. We are back season seven, and today we have the lovely Brett Rossi.

0:32Alexis Texas Hello

0:33Brett Rossi and welcome.

0:34Alexis Texas This has been a long time coming. Think I know. Third time is a charm. I think that, you know, sometimes happens. But I think today is the day that we're gonna get some really good, you know, conversation.

0:44Alexis Texas We don't really know each other. I feel like we've been in the same industry for so long. One thing I love about having girls that are in the industry is, like, I think this is, like, the first real conversation I ever really get to have with them. So I feel like it kind of opens your eyes and your lens to a lot of things. So I'm excited to get to talk to you and then get to know you a little bit more.

1:01Brett Rossi I'm excited too because you're, like, the the legend of my era. So, like, you were already huge at the time and I was like a little, you know, starter babies. So it's really cool to, and we have so many like mutuals. So I think it's, it's, it's cool that we finally get to connect and stuff. And also guys, for the record, I was and I canceled on her twice.

1:26Brett Rossi I'm not gonna make an excuse because she already knows the excuses, but all I can do is apologize and be thankful that I'm here.

1:33Alexis Texas Yes. So I remember one of those people that, you know, yes, I... It sucked. You know, both times definitely sucked. There's lots of other things.

1:41Alexis Texas I know that things happen, and sometimes timing just isn't right, and this is the time. So I appreciate that you took your time and actually we're gonna come to fruition. You know? So, you know, you talked about you were the starter baby when the time you know, I was like such a big hype in my career. Let's talk about those steps.

1:56Alexis Texas Like, what would you say is one misconception about you getting into the industry that people maybe have about you when you first started and where you are today?

2:04Brett Rossi So when I first started, it was was a slow progression. Like I started with Playboy back when... Remember when the Girls Next Door was like a big deal? So in 2007, I turned 18 and I was... And Hef was having like his first casting call and I wasn't invited.

2:23Brett Rossi Obviously I'm just some random chick from Riverside. They're like, who are you? So I got my hoopty car and I was like, I'm going. I was wearing like baggy jeans, a tank top. Had no tits at the time.

2:33Brett Rossi Like Avril Lavigne hair with the dark and...

2:37Alexis Texas You were

2:37Brett Rossi a skater girl? No. You wanna be a skater girl? Like, I was... That was...

2:42Brett Rossi You're just bringing it up. That was just like the vibe, you know, I was going with. And then I showed up and there was a bunch of beautiful women talking to a rock.

2:50Alexis Texas Okay. So let's go... Let's break this down. So you say that there was like this casting call. Yeah.

2:55Alexis Texas You weren't invited. No. Who... Like where did you get the balls enough to like be like, know what? I'm just gonna see if they're gonna let me in and I'm going.

3:03Alexis Texas Did you always like aspired? Did you wanna be like the girls next door? Did you want that kind of fame? Did you know what you were doing when you were driving in your hoopty to this audition of sorts? Dude, that hoopty was awesome.

3:13Brett Rossi But anyways, memories. Memories. So I actually started in the entertainment industry as a kid. So I did like runway and catalog work. The industry is kind of in my family.

3:24Brett Rossi So... But when The Girls Next Door came about, I was like, I wanna be a hot bitch with big tits and I wanna be naked. So growing up, my family was like, you're either gonna be one of two things, a stripper or a star.

3:39Alexis Texas So they weren't surprised when you decided to be a star? No.

3:42Brett Rossi I was the one that was always naked and people were like, girl, put your clothes on. Like, this is not appropriate. Okay.

3:47Alexis Texas Okay. So it's your calling.

3:49Brett Rossi Yeah. For sure. And I've just kind of... I've always had the mindset of like, fake it till you make it and just believe in yourself. I know it sounds so cheesy, but

3:58Alexis Texas It's not. I feel like, you know, the older we get, I feel like there's all these cheesy sayings of sorts and we're like, oh, yeah, sure. But they all...

4:04Brett Rossi True. Right? They come and knock.

4:07Alexis Texas I And you believe that you were going to be whatever, the most nakedest star of Big Tips and you're just like, half pick me. I just wanted to be hot, to

4:14Brett Rossi be honest. So I went and, I got in because I saw the girls talking to the rock or whatever. I just blended in. I'm like, yeah, my name's Ashley. Like I chose like the most basic chick name and, I got in and I ended up testing, but I didn't really impress them per se.

4:34Brett Rossi Okay. But I met a girl named Andrea Lowell who was the host of Playboy Radio and we started talking and she was like, Dude I love your personality. Okay. And I started getting invited on there and then it led to Playboy TV and then being a Painted Girl and then I became a Cyber Girl and then Howard Stern discovered me and then just changed.

4:56Alexis Texas Okay. So question before you could get into the Howard Stern thing. What were your interactions with Hef? You said that you didn't really impress him, or was he the one who's actually doing the casting? Like, did you have any, like...

5:07Alexis Texas Did you see things that were going behind the lens that was, you know, such a big documentary that they made about him after he passed? Or did you

5:13Brett Rossi see any of those things or maybe have them happen to yourself? So I will say I was roofied twice at the Playboy Mansion but it wasn't Heth's fault. He had a rule for us. So Heth actually ended up seeing a picture of me and this was back when he would handpick the painted girls for his parties. Basically for anyone who doesn't know what a painted girl is, you're just wearing paint.

5:33Brett Rossi You're totally naked and you'd walk around these

5:35Alexis Texas Are you wearing even pants?

5:36Brett Rossi No. Nothing? Hef had a rule that we weren't allowed to drink. Okay. But we would sneak in the pantry and drink with the butlers.

5:46Alexis Texas Was that where, like, there was no cameras or mics? Because there was there's mics allegedly all over the house.

5:50Brett Rossi I don't know about mics, to be honest. The place was, like, old and rundown and ghetto. Mhmm. So I don't really know if there was any truth to that. Yeah.

5:59Brett Rossi Like it was pretty ghetto. Not gonna lie. That place was like rundown. I never went upstairs because I didn't f. I just...

6:05Brett Rossi I like older men, but I'm not a grave robber. So, yeah you know he just wasn't my vibe. He's a really nice guy but honestly really hard to communicate with because he was

6:16Alexis Texas like deaf. Okay and this was like I mean 2007. Yeah.

6:20Brett Rossi Was 2007 even though so imagine.

6:22Alexis Texas Yeah. Well I definitely had to ask. It's one of those I'd only been to the Playboy Mansion once, and I did host a party, but I never saw him. Was like through an affiliate like party planner type of thing, and it was like outside, but I never saw him, never did anything. I don't even think I was even in the house.

6:36Alexis Texas It was like outside by the pool and like hole or is there a tent that

6:39Brett Rossi they put outside or something like that? Like it depends on

6:41Alexis Texas what event thing whenever. So I never really... Every time you're just like, oh, you went to Playboy Mansion. They're like, so what did you see? I'm like, really?

6:47Alexis Texas Nothing. Nothing. I had people having fun times and then I ran out the gates, and I was like, it's my time.

6:53Brett Rossi You're like, oh, bye. It's probably my time to go. I mean, honestly, when that whole documentary came out, I kind of have two I... Two two thought process. Because I think, you know, there can be two truths.

7:09Alexis Texas Two things can be true.

7:10Brett Rossi Exactly. And I mean, do I think that... Look, if you're an old man who is who he is, he has a history of who he is, Do you think you're gonna get an allowance and live for free, like, just because you're a hot chick? Yeah. So I don't know.

7:26Brett Rossi I mean, my interactions with Hef were always cool. I mean, I think he did a lot for the girls, but I also don't wanna discount people who, you know For sure. Have their own experience. Because just like in the industry, you know how people have had bad experiences, like casting couch experiences and stuff and like with me, I can't relate because I was always kind of protected by the shell of like corporate because I was a contract girl so I didn't experience the kind of nasty side of the... And I feel like all industries, whether it's like sports or whatever, you know, there's always like a

7:59Alexis Texas dark side. Well, I I... And I agree with that. I feel like also I feel like the people pick and choose who they prey on as well. Feel like sometimes it's people is like where they could see like maybe who are vulnerable in certain situations and, you know, and you don't really strike me as someone that's easily taken advantage of in those situations.

8:17Alexis Texas You know, obviously, you were quite younger. You say you just turned 18, so Yeah. It's... You know, you're very impressionable to a lot of things and the lifestyle, but also having that a part of, like, your family life and all those things like that kinda probably helped you kind of put you in those spaces in a sense of having a a backbone and a a backbone and a voice for yourself to really maybe probably not get in those... And, you know, places that people didn't really wanna go.

8:37Alexis Texas Or being upstairs.

8:38Brett Rossi For sure. For sure. Well, also too, I mean, I'm like a big mouth in a way of not like I talk to talk, but I definitely... I'm I'm not a doormat.

8:50Alexis Texas Mhmm.

8:50Brett Rossi So... And I... And, you know, like the directors who, oh, they tried to me or whatever. Do they never try to me? I don't know if it's because when I show up to set, I'm like, no, I'm not here for it.

9:00Brett Rossi Yeah. Like I don't know if I But give that

9:02Alexis Texas for sure, definitely don't... Again, I've just... Not that I'm just meeting you today, but knowing like, I think that when you really get to know somebody's core is like you gotta have conversations with them as far as like... Even though the conversations we've had of of beginning of this wasn't really substance of like Yeah. Who you really are, but you could tell how you speak and how you kinda carry yourself of where I just don't see that kind of happening to you.

9:25Brett Rossi Yeah. So, you know? I think that's inaccurate. Good as

9:27Alexis Texas to you. Yeah. Have you ever dated someone who was amazing behind closed doors, but a walking red flag in public?

9:34Brett Rossi Oh, dude. My whole dating history. Come on. Take us down the list. Take us down the list of memory lane.

9:42Brett Rossi Dude, not such quite memory lane. I don't know. Like, I've been with very affluent individuals in both, like, the entertainment sector and also like the business sector. And dude, I just like narcissists. Like, I'm like, I'm just gonna be straight honest.

9:59Alexis Texas So that's what you attract is narcissists?

10:01Brett Rossi Yeah. Because I have this thing where I empathize with people who are broken and like... So you want to fix everybody? I think I want to fix people because I'm like, well, if I can't fix myself, might as well distract. You know what I mean?

10:16Brett Rossi So no, I just... I have a lot of empathy for people. Like, I... And it can be a double edged sword. No lie.

10:23Brett Rossi Because it sets me up for, like, heads in my life. So I'm like, But but I saw, like, oh, I know everyone says they're douchey, but I can fix that.

10:35Alexis Texas You know? So with that being said though, so were they amazing to you even maybe they're narcissistic behind closed doors, but in public they were completely opposite? Honestly, roles reversed.

10:44Brett Rossi Like in public, they would almost put me on a pedestal. She's amazing and blah blah blah, and she's this, she's that. But then behind closed doors, they were rude as hell, mean, borderline like abusive. Well, abusive in some situations, but it was just I never understood that because like the last person I dated, he owned strip clubs and, I know, red flag. Told you.

11:08Brett Rossi I like them. I paint them green.

11:09Alexis Texas Who cares? You're like, it's pink nose.

11:12Brett Rossi Yeah. Like just add some bleach. It's fine. Just lateral bleach and it'll be all... You know what?

11:18Brett Rossi It's all for the plot. Right? Is it though? I don't know. I mean, for my life, I kinda live...

11:23Alexis Texas But is that something that you wanna continue to keep entertaining? No. It's one of those things that I feel like I'm very big on energy. You seem like you are too, but words are powerful. So you are aware that you are attracted to narcissists, but how do we fix that and correct that to make better choices?

11:37Alexis Texas Because narcissists aren't nice, honey, they're not really great partners. Was married to one and I got divorced happily, Mary, you know. And so I think that it's like what we put onto the world is what we don't understand is like, that's also what we're attracting. So it's like you saying like, oh, you know, it's a red flag and, you know, these things where it's like, yeah, it's still possible, but that doesn't mean you have to take the red flag and run off the other field.

11:59Brett Rossi 100%, which is why. So now that I've recognized the pattern, because I think for a long time, it's not that I didn't recognize it because I'm very self aware. And I also hold myself accountable. So I'm not the type of person to be like, Oh, well, blah, blah. I'm the type of person who's actually like, no bitch, you shouldn't have been, you shouldn't have put yourself in that situation, but that's a whole other conversation.

12:22Brett Rossi However, after my last breakup with a narcissist, I have spent the last year and a half totally celebrate, not dating because I need to focus on what's broken with me and why I'm attracted to that, which, I mean, there's a whole psychology thing that like I've broken down, but you're absolutely right. Because at what point you have to stop doing the same thing over and over. I don't wanna interrupt your thought of that,

12:48Alexis Texas but I feel like there's a word in there that I don't like, and I feel like you should find an advice is to like change the word broken. I don't think means broken with you. I think that there's just things that we need to unlearn and unprogram that were maybe, like, helped us survive to where we are now but no longer serves you. So I feel like it's, like, changing the mindset. Like, you change your mindset.

13:07Alexis Texas You change your life. It's, like, not allowing to being... Nothing's wrong with you. But do we make bad choices? We're human.

13:13Alexis Texas But how do we choose that to do better of, like, getting what we really want? And I think it's about self worth and not feeling like we have that, that we're valued for a relationship that gives us all the things that we deserve. You know what I mean? So I think like that starting there is a good, like, starting place of like where do we build from there? Yeah.

13:29Alexis Texas What are your standards and requirements that really make you who you are? And I think that being in the adult industry and those things we have a lot of heaviness on, you know, shame and this and that where it's like that doesn't belong to us or doesn't have to belong to us. It could belong to other people, but that doesn't have to be your journey. Yeah. I feel like sometimes it's like you do deserve someone to be not narcissist.

13:48Alexis Texas You do someone to give you... Put you on that pedestal all the time, not behind close.

13:52Brett Rossi Not like a shot. Yeah.

13:54Alexis Texas But it's like, what does that look like on paper? For a long time, was with myself included. It's like you want a partner, you want someone to share this life that we have and all these things. But what does that mean? Yeah.

14:04Alexis Texas And I couldn't really articulate myself of what that looked like until I really took the time of like, what do I need in a partner? What do I need in someone who's gonna fulfill me to do these things? And until we start there, do I feel like we really build on what is next?

14:18Brett Rossi That's actually, that's hardcore. And actually it's, there's so much truth to it because, and I think that that's why I have no interest in dating right now because I think I have a habit of like doing so much for others that I definitely abandon myself and that's such a bad habit. Yeah. And so I just have been doing like a lot of self reflection and it's like, like I said, holding yourself, I think holding yourself accountable and being aware of

14:49Alexis Texas That's the

14:49Brett Rossi first battle. Yeah. Because like I, like it goes back to the situation that happened with us a couple of times. I totally hold myself accountable. Like there's the...

14:59Brett Rossi I think that if you don't hold yourself accountable, then

15:01Alexis Texas what are you doing? Which I think is a great trait to have, but you don't have to beat yourself up about it.

15:06Brett Rossi And I

15:06Alexis Texas think that sometimes we think like, oh, this person where we think about, like, you know, I think with you even like today is like, were so worried about how I'm going to think about you, which obviously, I'm human, I'm gonna have a reaction regardless because you was, you know, vice versa. You do. But that doesn't mean that you're a horrible, terrible person. That doesn't mean that I'm never gonna talk to you again. Like, where I think that sometimes we think about the worst situation where it's

15:28Brett Rossi like we

15:28Alexis Texas work ourself up where it's like when you just talk to people like we're talking, you think like, oh, it's really not that bad or I thought about, like, I I work my side, got anxiety for nothing, where it's like, just relax.

15:37Brett Rossi I know. Just have some Take your time. Pill.

15:40Alexis Texas Just relax. So what's one headline about you that you wish people would finally stop believing? You're like, which one?

15:48Brett Rossi I know. I'm like, man, I'm trying to think back. Which one? Can we do, like, old headlines?

15:59Alexis Texas Yeah. Anyone. Like, let's start there, like, first look at what is it like to have headlines about you that are negative, positive, like, all these things where you're like, is this even my story where you start to believe, like... Do you start to believe them? Do you not?

16:10Alexis Texas Like, where does that even take you?

16:12Brett Rossi Dude, it's a trip because I feel now there's so much more control and, like, having press about an individual. Whereas when I had a lot of press, that was when the press kind of built a narrative about you. It didn't matter. They kind of villainized people and I was definitely villainized and there would be stories like there was one story that I was like a bridezilla and all this and I'm like, dude, I didn't even want a wedding. I was like wife number eight fifty two.

16:43Brett Rossi Do you think that I really want? No, I was embarrassed to be completely honest, but you know, that was that person.

16:49Alexis Texas You were embarrassed that you were being wife number eight or you were embarrassed to be in the relationship being in

16:55Brett Rossi the headlines? Definitely wasn't embarrassed of the relationship because it was genuine and I really cared about that person. I think also at that time I was so young.

17:04Alexis Texas Mhmm.

17:05Brett Rossi How young were you? I was 24. Okay. So when you're thrusted in an environment where stories are coming out about you and you're like, how the what? Never happened.

17:17Brett Rossi So I will say that that partner, at the time, he had one good thing. I mean, at the time we were dating, thought there was a lot of great things, but the good thing I took from that was he used to say, if you don't read it, it doesn't exist. It's so true because if you look at like comments and stuff, you you let that get to your head. Mhmm. But, yeah, that bribezilla one really bothered me.

17:43Brett Rossi For years, it still pissed me off because I'm like, dude.

17:45Alexis Texas All the ones

17:46Brett Rossi in bribezilla? Casual laid back. Like, really am. I'm like like, Alexis was like, oh, blah blah blah. I'm like, dude, whatever you want.

17:52Brett Rossi Like, I'm very much that person. I'm just like, I go with the flow. And so So was

17:57Alexis Texas he the Bridezilla? Dude, we've been

18:00Brett Rossi in a fight one time because it was like... I was like, honestly, it doesn't have to be like a thing. He's like, no. He threw like a $120,000 engagement party and I'm like, yo, I don't even know these people like, hello? You know?

18:13Brett Rossi And I didn't even get to eat the cheese plate. Dude, that was a whole thing.

18:17Alexis Texas Was... It the things that stick out for like, people are just like...

18:20Brett Rossi Like the things

18:20Alexis Texas you would have to do. Like the cheese plate, I was looking forward to.

18:23Brett Rossi Dude, I was so mad about the cheese plate because like I did a tasting for it. Mhmm. And I was looking forward to this. And I'm lactose intolerant, mind you. It's even better.

18:33Brett Rossi Yeah, so okay. But there is one, there was one headline about me and Denise Richards and it really bothered me because there was this narrative painted that I was getting her kicked out of her home and all this stuff and that really sucked because I tried to have a relationship with that person and regardless of what our differences were, that hurt because I know that it wasn't just her that was in the picture. Was kids. There was family, you know? And that really sucked.

19:05Brett Rossi And I'm like, who the is making up these stories? I don't know. Probably her.

19:07Alexis Texas So did that make... Did that kind of hinder y'all being able to build a relationship because the stories and headlines were out there like that? So did you not really have a really great relationship with her? No. We never had a good relationship.

19:19Alexis Texas I had

19:19Brett Rossi a great relationship with Brooke, his other wife or wife number whatever. Mhmm. But I just... I don't know. That always rubbed me the wrong way because I don't like when people get it twisted about me.

19:32Brett Rossi I like to... Like I said, I'll admit if I've done something whatever, but when it's completely abstract and I'm like So if you could take

19:40Alexis Texas the control on that narrative, what would you... How would you change that narrative? What would you what would you wanna say to her if there was a message that... Well, if there was a targeting against you? Like, I'm not sure about the headline of what it really said other than were refuting or things

19:53Brett Rossi like that. Don't even remember.

19:54Alexis Texas Have y'all had a conversation after the vamp? No.

19:57Brett Rossi We never did. I think we've just always kind of been like nemesis, like arch nemesis. Okay. There was one more headline, which you're gonna laugh at this one. Dude, I was not the reason why Rihanna and my ex got in a Twitter war.

20:13Brett Rossi Okay? So Rihanna, like the Rihanna, I was like a huge fan. Like, who wasn't? Right? Hell, I love her.

20:20Brett Rossi Her. Right? And I'm like...

20:22Alexis Texas I'm like, what'd you do to Rihanna, dance?

20:23Brett Rossi So there was this headline that like, I started this big feud and there was a feud between her and myself and my ex and like this whole thing. But really

20:32Alexis Texas What did it start off?

20:33Brett Rossi Okay. We were at Giorgio Baldi's.

20:35Alexis Texas Okay. That's

20:35Brett Rossi my Okay.

20:37Alexis Texas That's her favorite place.

20:37Brett Rossi I know. Hello. So I... We had rented like the private room and I was having like a little birthday shindig and one of our security guards was like, hey, Rihanna's like having dinner. We know how big of a fan you are.

20:51Brett Rossi And my ex was like, no, go ask her. Go ask her. And I'm like, no, dude. She's probably eating. Yeah.

20:56Brett Rossi Was sparkful. Our security goes up to her and says, hey, like, we know you're eating, afterwards, would you like to come blah, blah, blah? And she said no, which she has every right to like, hello, I don't know this person. Don't care who you're engaged to or whatever. Hello, she's Rihanna.

21:11Brett Rossi Okay. And so my ex got pissed and went on Twitter and started chewing her up and next thing I know I'm on the phone with TMZ the next day and they're like, so yeah, Rihanna's you know saying you know, he's a diaper wearing. It turned into like a big thing and I honestly was like, dude, it wasn't me, but that was just kind of what happened during that relationship. A lot of things happened that I honestly had no control over, but I got pinned for it a lot. Think because I was the star and I was young and he couldn't

21:47Alexis Texas Easy target.

21:48Brett Rossi Yeah. Like he couldn't possibly be the reason. It had to be me. Right? So...

21:52Brett Rossi Rihanna, I love you. I'm sorry, man.

21:55Alexis Texas She's sorry. She's sorry, Rihanna. If she wasn't sorry, I would make her leave right now. Promise you.

21:59Brett Rossi Promise you. Work work work. Work.

22:02Alexis Texas Did you ever feel that people had already decided who you were before they even heard your side? That's a yes.

22:12Brett Rossi Yeah, man. You know what the biggest thing is? I think a lot of people, not so much now because I'm so far removed from it, but after the fact a lot of people would meet me and they would be like, wow, I thought you'd be like a crackhead. Oh. And I'm like, oh, really?

22:29Brett Rossi I mean, I... And it's funny now hindsight twenty twenty because I'm a firm believer you are who you surround yourself with. But back then I was like, you know, 24. Yeah. Yeah.

22:40Brett Rossi Why would they think I'm a crackhead? I don't know, lady. Like, maybe because you were gonna marry one? Like, I don't know. But I think the common misconception is that I was like a gold digger or I only date people for money or whatever, but...

22:55Alexis Texas So were you really in love?

22:56Brett Rossi Yeah, was. I was madly in love and that relationship actually me up. Like I had a whole nervous breakdown afterwards but I just have this thing with men in general that I happen to be attracted to successful men and it isn't about the money. What it is, is it's a mindset. If I'm surrounded by people who are just complacent and lazy and don't have dreams, goals, and aspirations, I absorb that and I don't want that.

23:22Brett Rossi Like I come from a family of workaholics so I just find that really attractive that they just have their together, maybe professionally, maybe not personally, but you know what I'm saying?

23:32Alexis Texas The red flag.

23:33Brett Rossi Yeah yeah but people I think misconstrue that as oh she's a gold digger and it's like no I just like the personality and the mentality and I think the grit it takes to get to that level of success. You don't have to be a gazillion or billionaire, but I do want somebody that has a foundation because I have a foundation. So I was married to a guy where I was like, you know, I was the sugar mama and that's never happening again, man.

24:04Alexis Texas Hey, we we go through things. Were you a sugar mama? I've never been a sugar mama.

24:08Brett Rossi You're so lucky. I'm too pretty to be a sugar mama.

24:12Alexis Texas Not even that, I think that I think it... I don't... What can I say? I think that it... I have very big walls.

24:21Alexis Texas So for me to like get to that vulnerable level, not that I... And for me is I like to take care of my partner, but me as well, I also date men that are like, established. So I feel like I've never been that put in that predicament. They're like, hey, let's pay all my bills or whatever. Even when I was married, he paid majority of the things.

24:40Alexis Texas I paid for like all the fun stuff or whatever. Yeah. Yeah. It was split like, you know, for me because I also don't believe in a man paying for everything, and I also make my own money. So for me, I like the balance.

24:48Alexis Texas Yeah. But I think that when we sit... Talk about things and, like, the misconceptions of Goldergers or whatever, don't think... I think that that's people who just jealous, you know, and when people, like, say things, it's like if you're looking in a mirror, you... You're usually saying it's about yourself when you're talking about somebody else because it's something that you see that you want or you know that you feel bad about or something like Deflecting.

25:06Alexis Texas So for me it's... I think that should be... That's where you should be. You should be around people that elevate you. You should be around, you know, from friends to relationships to everything.

25:14Alexis Texas So I think, like, know, I think that that's an easy target because of your past, probably why I like the whole gold digger digger type of situation. But I I think that that's exactly... Again, that should be on your standards list.

25:24Brett Rossi Well, and it should be on your...

25:25Alexis Texas Like, it should... Is that someone being in the same tax bracket, someone who can be able to fulfill your life the way that it is if you stopped working today, not saying that you would, but those are important things and then the older you get, they are important.

25:38Brett Rossi No. I agree because if you think about it, the irony of it all is like, you know, especially like, I feel like right now this era, like, there's a lot of men and this is not like hating on men at all, but there's this thought process of like, women need to like be the traditional, you know, trad wife because, you know, a lot of us are getting our tits out and stuff because the economy is kind of up right now, but

26:01Alexis Texas hey, whatever you gotta do. But I think there's My tits have been out before.

26:05Brett Rossi Tits have made like two recessions. Okay. And it is my second titty job. So they've seen a lot of recessions, but I'm just saying that you can't want a trad traditional wife, but not be the provider. Cause if you think about like the traditional setting,

26:24Alexis Texas the men are the providers. They're the

26:25Brett Rossi ones with the money. So technically, the trad wife is the OG gold digger. You think about it. But I mean I won't be baking bread though. Let me tell you that.

26:33Alexis Texas No. You're not doing the sourdough starter?

26:35Brett Rossi No. No. Not your thing? No. I'm not.

26:37Brett Rossi You'll sugar be mama, but she won't be their bread. No. That guy. I'll divorce that guy. I call that a practice run.

26:45Alexis Texas How many practice runs have

26:46Brett Rossi you had marriage wise? Well, I've had one practice run and then I've been engaged like so many times. How many times? Let's see. Does he count the practice run?

26:55Alexis Texas Yes.

26:55Brett Rossi Oh, goddamn.

26:56Alexis Texas Because it's an engagement.

26:57Brett Rossi Yeah. You're right. I got rings for all of them. You want

26:59Alexis Texas them still? Actually, I do have that guy's ring. I've been wanting to turn it into like something cool. I did that. So I took all of the jewelry that men ever gave me.

27:08Alexis Texas My wedding ring was included, and I bought jewelry that I wanted. This is... Actually, this ring's not... Oh, this ring. This ring.

27:14Brett Rossi Is that an emerald?

27:16Alexis Texas It is not an emerald. It's a jade. This is my great grandmother's ring.

27:19Brett Rossi Oh, cute.

27:20Alexis Texas But yeah, this was something and I bought this Van Cleef bracelet. I have another Van

27:23Brett Rossi Cleef bracelet.

27:23Alexis Texas See, need to get the prize for me. Was more of like, I didn't wanna look at the items, then I... They were beautiful items, but I didn't wanna have the memory of that person and have it tied to me. Bad So juju. Find a good jeweler girl and sell all that.

27:36Alexis Texas Yeah. To somebody else.

27:37Brett Rossi I know. I was just looking at her the other day. I'm like, why the? This was eight hundred years ago.

27:41Alexis Texas Why the? So how many rings? Come on.

27:43Brett Rossi Oh, one, two. Oh, man. I miss ring number two though. That was a 5.5 carat f clarity on a platinum. Yeah.

27:53Brett Rossi That ring was nice.

27:54Alexis Texas Did you have that one? Don't

27:55Brett Rossi think so. No. I lost that one. Here's the story of the You lost it? Okay.

27:59Brett Rossi So that was another thing lost. Dude, I didn't lose it, but here's the story in one of the tabloid stories that pissed me off. Sorry dropping the f bomb. That's very, okay. So the word was, oh, I was given my ring or whatever when we sweat.

28:16Brett Rossi Yeah, that's a great narrative, but that's not what happened. What happened was we were going to get married in a few weeks. So I turned my ring into our assistant who took it to the jeweler to get like the matching. It was like going to be a pave setting. And so when we broke up, I didn't have the ring because it was

28:35Alexis Texas at the jeweler. Don't know what jeweler, the guy did it. The guy took it. So when you left that relationship, did you have no communication whatsoever? You couldn't tell them, hey, they have the ring.

28:45Alexis Texas Like, what did you leave walking away from that relationship? What...

28:47Brett Rossi The clothes on my back, some purses I don't give a about, and my dogs. Okay. Yeah. I lived in a motel for a little bit. That was a gnarly time, but, and then eventually got a place.

29:00Alexis Texas So you have no communication with whatsoever at this point?

29:02Brett Rossi No. And then... No. Not now. No.

29:04Brett Rossi We only spoke through lawyers for quite a while, and now I think he thinks that I'm dead in his mind.

29:11Alexis Texas Oh, well...

29:12Brett Rossi You see, you know what?

29:13Alexis Texas I feel like that's, you know, it's kind of morbid, one thing that I feel like my ex husband told me was like, have to mourn you like you're dead, but you're living in a sense because it's your mourning the relationship, the person that's no longer going to be in your life the way you thought that they were. Yeah. For sure. So it's like, you know, good riddance. You know, that part of you is actually also over too.

29:31Alexis Texas It's like you're not the same woman that you hear today that you were being 24 years old and...

29:35Brett Rossi No. I just was stupid continuing the same patterns with the damn narcissist. Like, I gotta stop.

29:41Alexis Texas Would you still get engaged as early as you did it then? Now?

29:45Brett Rossi Because you know what? I think hindsight 2020 and self reflection is, yeah, when people are like, you know, moving really fast, I used to misconstrue that as like, oh, this is special. This no.

30:00Alexis Texas No, no. So what is it now? What do you think it is?

30:02Brett Rossi It's a rank flag that I'm not bleaching. That's my girl.

30:06Alexis Texas See, see, you're learning. This is like therapy with Ms. Techs. I know.

30:10Brett Rossi Was going to therapy today and it's free therapy. So you know what? Thank you. I appreciate this.

30:16Alexis Texas Thanks, James, for setting this up. Can great keep you in a relationship longer than you should stay?

30:23Brett Rossi Damn. Yeah. Yeah.

30:25Alexis Texas I like how you just thought of the person too.

30:29Brett Rossi Saw it on my face. I'm like You're like Damn. There's this guy I was on and off with most. But when I say on and off, I mean on and off situationship. You're gonna your pants.

30:37Brett Rossi Fifteen years on and off situationship because Wow. I thought my situation was Wait. Is it the same person?

30:45Alexis Texas I've... Definitely not. Definitely not.

30:47Brett Rossi Wouldn't that be wild? We could be Eskimo sisters. I mean, I wouldn't be mad

30:51Alexis Texas at it. I know I'm longer in a situation You're like it doesn't matter. Yeah.

30:54Brett Rossi I know. Me too. I finally escaped.

30:56Alexis Texas I mean I mean that.

30:58Brett Rossi I mean that who knows if it'll last because we always do that. But yeah, man, that

31:02Alexis Texas was good. So it's fifteen years,

31:05Brett Rossi On and off. Yeah.

31:06Alexis Texas When's the last time you had it? Oh, god. You're like last night.

31:09Brett Rossi I'm sorry. I don't know. Three hours ago. No. It's been a while.

31:14Brett Rossi Like, probably over a year and a half. Okay. Yeah. What's the fastest way

31:20Alexis Texas a man can lose your attention?

31:22Brett Rossi Oh, god. I'm a big hygiene girl. Okay. Especially dental hygiene. You should've been a dentist.

31:28Alexis Texas I know. Dental hygienist. But you probably played one of those before.

31:31Brett Rossi Yeah. I think so. I mean, I... I've done a

31:33Alexis Texas lot of occupations during my time. Have you ever mistaken a man's potential for his actual character?

31:40Brett Rossi Damn. Well, yeah. I mean, I like red flags. I think they all project themselves to be one thing, but they're not. Have you ever dated someone who would...

31:51Brett Rossi Or you were embarrassed to admit you liked?

31:54Alexis Texas Have I? You ever had, like, maybe your situation nobody knew about, so you kept him in closet for fifteen years? Or do you just... Was that just because he didn't wanna be seen? Or...

32:05Brett Rossi Dude, there's this guy. Oh my god. He was an actor on, like, a hit show. I won't say his name, but What's the show? Entourage.

32:14Brett Rossi Okay. And, for the longest time, I was like, I'll only tell my closest friends this situation. First of all, I don't know why I him a few times. Okay. Because everything was an about him.

32:26Brett Rossi You had a small Honestly, I like small Why? Because you

32:30Alexis Texas could take it... You could do it more? Like, I don't understand Why

32:33Brett Rossi do you small? I don't I'm like, what are we talking about? Not a micro.

32:37Alexis Texas We were less friends, and now I'm

32:39Brett Rossi not sure if even micro. Okay. But, like, I do like a smaller What was his smaller? Well, it had nothing to do with his... I mean his was not impressive.

32:48Alexis Texas Okay. It

32:49Brett Rossi was impressive. And he would put like interviews up of himself from Walmart. Oh, you're... Is that weird?

32:56Alexis Texas What do mean like like articles or like the... Like

32:59Brett Rossi a Like extra, like extra interviews. Oh. Like extra, extra.

33:04Alexis Texas Was he like, shh, don't talk while I watch this interview? Like, is that what made him Like, what

33:08Brett Rossi is this? Blacked out when it would happen. Okay? And then another time So how many times did you this man? Dude, so there's that time.

33:15Brett Rossi And then the time he tried to dine and dash after that. Yeah, dude. Did he try to pay for it? Dude, I almost got stuck with the bill because he was like, oh, don't... I was like, don't we have to pay?

33:24Brett Rossi He goes, oh, they know who I am. And then the waitress comes chasing after us like, yo, homeboy. And he was like, don't you know who I am? That's my biggest itch.

33:33Alexis Texas That's a itch.

33:34Brett Rossi I don't give a who you are. You could be the janitor.

33:36Alexis Texas But why don't you have to pay? And it doesn't care if I

33:38Brett Rossi know she starts. You still did the work. Hello. And then there was another time I, you're going be like, girl, dude, we ran his house in Malibu and we were like on the balcony and he's like, yeah, this is my backyard. It's the ocean.

33:52Brett Rossi And And there's like this hot chick with like one of those little pug licking dogs. And next thing I know, he's like, I'll be right back. I'm thinking he's going to go get water. Went and talked to the girl, got her number. And I was like, are you watching it happen?

34:04Brett Rossi Well also dude, he barely Yeah. But barely, my thought process was Dude, you don't even know me, you're leaving

34:14Alexis Texas me in your house. I don't think at that point he cared. You're right. I mean, if you didn't steal anything from Charlie, I think you'd

34:20Brett Rossi be I know. Right? I'm like, honestly... And this was before him. But I'm like, dude, what am I doing?

34:25Brett Rossi This guy's gross. But the Was that the last time, hopefully? Yeah. Because I couldn't do the breath anymore in the interview.

34:31Alexis Texas So it was always bad. The breath was always bad.

34:33Brett Rossi Yeah. I don't know.

34:34Alexis Texas Did he not smell it? Like, do you feel about that?

34:36Brett Rossi I don't know. The very big smelling person. Too. I'll be like... I'm like...

34:41Brett Rossi Like right now, have a stale mouth because it's hot. Okay. And I'm a thirsty bitch. So

34:47Alexis Texas We like that. Alright. We're gonna do rapid fire questions. We're gonna like, know, get out of your relationship We know that the red flags are no longer gonna be bleached. We're not bleaching anymore red flags.

34:56Alexis Texas Only bleaching buttholes. There you go. I've never done that either, but we'll go. Alright. Hollywood fame or completely

35:04Brett Rossi autonomy? Wait. Does Hollywood fame come in money? Sure.

35:09Alexis Texas It can. Hollywood fame. They're famous, they should have money. Yeah.

35:12Brett Rossi Oh, we're talking about men? Yeah. Choice.

35:14Alexis Texas Like what what you would pick? Like what you

35:16Brett Rossi know? Autonomy. Yeah. Autonomy.

35:18Alexis Texas Yeah. I don't

35:18Brett Rossi wanna deal with the personalities of Hollywood. Okay. Private jet or private island? Oh, shit. No.

35:23Brett Rossi I don't wanna say private island. That gives Jeffrey Epstein vibes. Private jet.

35:27Alexis Texas Okay. Famous ex or an anonymous billionaire?

35:30Brett Rossi Anonymous billionaire all the way. B. Capital b. Revenge glow up or a genuine closure? Revenge glow up.

35:38Brett Rossi I wanna be hot for the rest of my life.

35:39Alexis Texas A man who spoils you or a man who understands you?

35:42Brett Rossi Goddamn it. You could only pick one.

35:45Alexis Texas Okay. See, this is gonna go onto your standards list. We're gonna make this list.

35:50Brett Rossi Understands me because therapist Alexis says we... That doesn't mean that

35:55Alexis Texas you need that. If you're gonna be spoiled by your band, I think that's a good... Generous. Doesn't mean that you're gonna be obviously whatever, but being...

36:01Brett Rossi But if they understand me, then they know that, my love language is I love to give gifts and I love to receive it. Anyways, this

36:06Alexis Texas is rapid fire. This was a trick question that you got... You did do well. Love that feels peaceful or a love that feels electric? Dude, peaceful.

36:13Alexis Texas Electric is the red flag I'm talking about. Tell your best friend everything or keep your relationship private. Nope. Private. Private.

36:20Alexis Texas An ex apology or never hearing from him again.

36:23Brett Rossi You know what? I used to be like, I'm gonna put... No. I never wanna hear from you again.

36:27Alexis Texas Being underestimated or being intimidating? Underestimated. Knowing the truth or keeping the fantasy alive?

36:38Brett Rossi Rapid fire. God damn it. Fantasy alive. God, I'm so slow at this.

36:41Alexis Texas Okay. Have you ever googled a man while he was sitting next to you?

36:46Brett Rossi I Google everyone and do background checks on everyone. You do?

36:48Alexis Texas Yeah. I... So you pay for a private investigator too. Yeah. I'm weird dude.

36:53Alexis Texas To every guy you've ever gone on a date with or someone you're dating?

36:56Brett Rossi Anyone I'm interested in. Yeah.

36:58Alexis Texas Are you on dating sites?

36:59Brett Rossi No. Okay. No. Never...

37:02Alexis Texas Oh wait. Let's see. Have you ever gone through an excess social media at 2AM? No. I'm not like a big jealous like, dude, if

37:09Brett Rossi you're gonna cheat on me, like, that's on you. I know I'm a golden ticket. Have you ever

37:13Alexis Texas gone on a date purely for the story?

37:16Brett Rossi Yeah. One time I went out with this, he was a doctor and he got really up and he was trying to call the pharmacist to get Viagra, but the pharmacy was like, yo, you're putting too I'm a doctor. Oh, I like old men.

37:29Alexis Texas Okay. So what's the oldest man you've dated? 60. Okay. Yeah.

37:34Alexis Texas Have you ever been attracted to someone? Absolutely shouldn't have been.

37:38Brett Rossi Yeah. I think every single one

37:39Alexis Texas of my... Hello? Have you ever had a secret crush on someone famous?

37:46Brett Rossi No. I'm not really into famous people. I kind of rode that rodeo. You rode that train a long time ago? Yeah.

37:52Brett Rossi Train left to stop.

37:53Alexis Texas Have you ever ignored a text on purpose to make someone wait?

37:57Brett Rossi Yeah. It. I'm toxic too, people. Have you

38:03Alexis Texas ever gone back to an ex after telling your

38:05Brett Rossi friends you were done? Oh, yeah. That dude. That dude. Have you ever known a relationship was over before it actually ended?

38:13Brett Rossi Yeah. Every relationship actually. Okay. Mhmm. You can feel it, especially the like toxic electric ones.

38:18Brett Rossi You can feel it. You can feel the shit.

38:19Alexis Texas I think women, it's like we're already checked out three months before we actually make a move because we have to like mentally process it.

38:25Brett Rossi Yeah. I gotta prepare and And I like building Rico cases. That's fun. What? You never built a Rico case on somebody?

38:33Brett Rossi What the What does

38:34Alexis Texas that mean?

38:35Brett Rossi What Please explain. Okay. Rico case is where... And it goes with relationship, friendships, families, whatever. Any type of dynamic you have with somebody, if you know that they're doing shit, I'm the type of person to be like, okay, keep playing me like you think that you're playing me, but really I'm building a Rico case so when it's time to show my cards and be like, caught you.

38:56Alexis Texas But why do you need all these things to show them? Why can't one thing be this or not?

39:00Brett Rossi It's just like a... Oh, that's another thing. I developed a one strike you out rule. That was like a year ago, but you know, I don't know. Rico cases are just fun.

39:08Brett Rossi I But have a one So time general rule

39:10Alexis Texas what are you going to school for? To be

39:11Brett Rossi a lawyer?

39:11Alexis Texas Like what is it?

39:12Brett Rossi No, actually, to get my bachelor's in nursing.

39:15Alexis Texas Okay. Yeah. I was there once upon a time. Yeah. Never finished, you know, it's cool.

39:19Brett Rossi You know what? This is my third rodeo. I know. Alright. I gotta finish this time.

39:24Brett Rossi Don't get mad at me, Bret.

39:25Alexis Texas We're gonna do some messy questions. Okay. Are ready? Okay. What's the most embarrassing thing you've ever done for a man who wasn't even your boyfriend?

39:32Alexis Texas Not the sugar mama thing because we already know that, but.

39:38Brett Rossi Dude, man, one time I moved closer to you so too.

39:42Alexis Texas That wasn't your boyfriend. Like, states or like No. Down the street?

39:49Brett Rossi Like, what are you talking about? No. So like, I lived in the IE and I moved to LA.

39:52Alexis Texas Okay. That worked out well for you though. No?

39:55Brett Rossi Yeah. You know what? I justify it like I needed to for work. Sometimes...

39:59Alexis Texas So that was your that was your justification to him.

40:01Brett Rossi Just today we went away. Crazy. And... But the worst part is I moved down the street right now.

40:07Alexis Texas How many times did you go over to his house after that?

40:09Brett Rossi Oh, we were all the time. So it was like, I don't think he thought it was crazy. Maybe.

40:13Alexis Texas Down the street's crazy.

40:15Brett Rossi Dude, he told me it was okay. Of course he is because you get

40:18Alexis Texas that's an easier commute for both of you.

40:20Brett Rossi I know. Ding dong.

40:22Alexis Texas There was no ding dong ditching. I know. Ever fumble the man so badly that you still think about it? Is there one that got away? Hell no.

40:31Alexis Texas No.

40:33Brett Rossi The ones I fumble are usually the really nice guys to be honest. Okay. And they're better off without me to be real. If they're too nice, walk all over them. I kinda need...

40:42Brett Rossi Yeah. I just have a thing. Okay.

40:44Alexis Texas What's the pettiest thing you've done after getting your feelings hurt? What does that Rico case do girl? When you were getting all those files against your friends, your

40:54Brett Rossi family, your man. What what the... Dude. Man, what's the pettiest thing? You know what, I'm not petty.

41:02Brett Rossi I'll show it to your face.

41:03Alexis Texas But petty more of like doing something of like you're doing something spiteful to like get back at them. Like...

41:09Brett Rossi I know this is gonna sound bull... But like I'm not a spiteful person.

41:12Alexis Texas Okay. Even when your feelings are hurt? When you...

41:14Brett Rossi Yeah. I'm just... I know. I should be a bigger bitch.

41:17Alexis Texas Not necessarily. I mean, if it's not in you, then it's not

41:20Brett Rossi in you. You know what I believe? I believe let the trash take itself out. I like that. Yeah.

41:24Brett Rossi You know? Okay. I'm like, they're not... If they're gonna be douchebags, it's not... No.

41:28Brett Rossi Have you ever pretended to

41:30Alexis Texas be over someone just to make them jealous?

41:33Brett Rossi No. I pretended to be over somebody to gaslight myself to take over them.

41:37Alexis Texas But you healed yourself eventually.

41:38Brett Rossi Yeah. Yeah. You Did it take your mind? Yeah. You got it.

41:41Brett Rossi Like I said, fake it till you make it. Have you ever wanted a

41:43Alexis Texas man more after finding out another woman wanted him?

41:46Brett Rossi No. I'm not that kind of gal.

41:48Alexis Texas Would you share them?

41:49Brett Rossi No. I'm not that kind of gal.

41:51Alexis Texas Even with being wife number eight, you're not that kind of in a sharing nature? Did you ever share?

41:55Brett Rossi No. We actually had a monogamous relationship Okay. Which is like a misconception. Okay. Yeah.

42:00Brett Rossi No. I'm not really...

42:01Alexis Texas Not a sure. Not a threesome

42:03Brett Rossi type of Not like jealous vibes. It's just like, dude, I just wanna ride the...

42:06Alexis Texas Hey. Selfish. We like What's the most toxic thing you find secretly attractive? All these red flags that we're not gonna like anymore. Dude.

42:15Alexis Texas Man.

42:16Brett Rossi I'd... You know what? This is gonna sound up, but I kinda like when they're, like, mean, and then they're like, okay. Well, fine. I guess we can because now they're gonna blow their mind.

42:30Alexis Texas So what's the context? Like you're all are fighting and then they tell you that or like what are they just like turning you down like, oh, I'm not gonna

42:36Brett Rossi and then they're like giving in. They're just mean and then we just have Okay.

42:40Alexis Texas So like hate Yeah. Rage up. Okay. Babe, we can

42:44Brett Rossi Man, you're really pulling it out of me. I'm pulling something out of you bro. We're gonna She's gonna walk away from this podcast and be like that bitch is a What?

42:52Alexis Texas Have you ever been the reason two people have broken up? No. That you know of?

42:57Brett Rossi I haven't. Well, that that that I get it all

42:59Alexis Texas the time. I'm like, I saw my boyfriend have your videos and I broke up with him. I'm like, why not?

43:03Brett Rossi But I almost posted this guy's profile on Instagram last night because he keeps going in my DMs. So I looked at his profile and he, like, posting engagement photos with this girl and I almost was gonna post, hey girl, come collect your man and I was gonna tag her, but I was like, you know what? I'm a girl's girl. I'm not gonna out her. I wanted to out him, but then I...

43:20Brett Rossi Then it goes back to that. But isn't being

43:22Alexis Texas a girl girl outing him, not her? Well, if I

43:24Brett Rossi would've tagged her, would've embarrassed her because she now has engage. Yeah. This is too much work.

43:29Alexis Texas But I also feel like, you know, let the trash take the trash out of

43:32Brett Rossi the store. That's why I I thought about it. I was like, it's too much work. I'm going to bed.

43:36Alexis Texas I mean, yeah. I don't think...

43:38Brett Rossi Like I thought about it and I was like, I'm too tired.

43:40Alexis Texas Okay. Yeah. We like this. We like this. What's the quickest way a man can give you the I know the breath smells and you like the hygiene, but what's another one?

43:48Alexis Texas There's a

43:48Brett Rossi difference between being confident and cocky. I hate cocky men. Okay. What's the biggest lie people tell about being good in bed? I can eat.

44:00Alexis Texas I'm sorry. What happens when they don't... When they're not good at it? Do you tell them?

44:04Brett Rossi Yeah. Yeah. I'm like, yo. Down lower to my ex. That guy that guy sucked.

44:09Brett Rossi And I don't understand Which step or ex? Oh, the strip club owner.

44:12Alexis Texas Okay. This is the very last one.

44:14Brett Rossi Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. That guy sucked.

44:16Brett Rossi I don't understand it, dude. You're, like, banging strippers all the time. Like that guy had a revolving door and it was like, how do you not know...

44:23Alexis Texas But I feel like people... So why? I feel like when people can't eat because they're selfish lovers.

44:27Brett Rossi Yeah. Probably.

44:28Alexis Texas You're not a giver. You're a taker.

44:29Brett Rossi Yeah. Totally. You think? How do

44:31Alexis Texas you not think you're gonna... He's strippers on a revolving door? I know. I'm sure it's more of a numbers game than a sensual.

44:38Brett Rossi Who knows? That guy was weird.

44:40Alexis Texas What's more important, sexual compatibility or emotional compatibility?

44:45Brett Rossi I used to think sexual compatibility when I was in, like, a really healthy stable relationship k. And, like, the kinda dwindled. But now hindsight 2020, like, every other relationship after that, I'm like, dude, there was a lot of, like, chemistry and passion and but like, dude, I just want you to be my best friend. Look, there's a balance, but like if I had to choose Yeah.

45:06Alexis Texas Well, feel like you said earlier, it's very good. It's like they always tell you if you have like a nervous or you're anxious around the person that it's not really the person because you should feeling calm and like Yeah. This very like best friend where it's like you could do anything and you're just kinda like living your life. Alright. We're getting into truth with Texas.

45:22Alexis Texas This is my favorite part. We're getting a little spicy, nattier, kinky. Just a little bit more, you know? You're giving us a lot. We're doing great, Bret.

45:29Alexis Texas I hope you're feeling good about it....

45:30Brett Rossi Talk too much, lady. I'm trying to I

45:33Alexis Texas mean, if it was... If you weren't talking, we wouldn't have a podcast. Know. Right? I mean, I'd be sitting here looking at you and that's that stare you're talking about.

45:39Alexis Texas I don't do that.

45:39Brett Rossi The transgender.

45:46Alexis Texas What's the biggest lie you've ever told yourself about a man? Oh my god.

45:51Brett Rossi That his was okay. Dude, I had Dude, I had a fake an o, like the whole relationship. What was I think... Actually... In the last relationship?

45:59Brett Rossi Yeah. What's funny is when I first started dating this guy, I had to convince myself that I was into him like there was Why? Everything

46:07Alexis Texas Why do you have to convince yourself?

46:09Brett Rossi Because he was selling me on a dream.

46:11Alexis Texas What was his dream? Was gonna take care of you and do everything No.

46:14Brett Rossi We were gonna have like a ranch and this and that. And like when we broke up, I was devastated because I thought, oh my god. But then I had an epiphany about a year later, you know, going through the healing process. I'm like, bitch, you didn't even like that guy. You just like the dream he sold you on.

46:27Brett Rossi And honestly, sounds up, but I think that it's pretty easy at my age, like 37 to like fall into like somebody selling you a dream. No. No? Mm-mm.

46:37Alexis Texas No. I think to the point, but then the awareness part goes out the window because like what are you doing to make me believe that dream's coming true?

46:45Brett Rossi Well, was a crazy thing.

46:47Alexis Texas But that's what was saying.

46:47Brett Rossi Dude, he he was crazy. I know that sounds so bare. I'm not trying to talk but like I am. He did the move so I thought it was real.

46:55Alexis Texas So he was doing the actions and he just was Yeah. Overselling what were

46:58Brett Rossi That's what

46:59Alexis Texas was That's that's different I feel like than if you're just being like I've

47:05Brett Rossi property. Three months in a relationship, I should have been like that's a flag.

47:08Alexis Texas But what's your name on it? No. See, that's how they

47:11Brett Rossi get It's gonna be on my name when we get whatever it is. Lies. Liars. Liars.

47:17Alexis Texas What's the most fragile thing about a man's ego? What do you think?

47:21Brett Rossi Dude, they're obsessed with their penis size. I don't know what it is, man. Don't worry about

47:25Alexis Texas your penis size. Worry about if you're bushwhacking down there. So if you be being an adult entertainer, do you got a lot of men that are like insecure that they can't satisfy you because of that? Like when you say that they're, you know, obsessed about their size, do they talk about it? Like what does that Yeah.

47:38Alexis Texas Isn't big enough? I'm like, ew, that is such a dick.

47:41Brett Rossi Like what the are you? You're gonna

47:43Alexis Texas lie and say yes anyways.

47:44Brett Rossi I know, right? Like like you're deep inside me and I'm like, oh no, it's awful.

47:50Alexis Texas I have said that one time before. Well, I was like, just get off me. It wasn't in It was pre And I was like, just what are you doing? It just felt like a wet noodle. It was long and skinny and it just wasn't doing its thing Skinny and I just one.

48:02Alexis Texas Was not good. I'm like, I'm just remembering it ruined our friendship because we were friends and it just wasn't the right thing to do. Poor noodle. Alright. What's...

48:12Alexis Texas Where's the craziest place you've ever had? You being the adventurous person that you are.

48:16Brett Rossi Okay. Well, everyone be like, oh, in the private jet. Yeah. Who cares about that? I behind a dumpster, man.

48:22Brett Rossi Oh.

48:22Alexis Texas Yeah. That was so cool. Standing doggy?

48:24Brett Rossi Yeah. I don't know why. We were walking home. It was with this guy who was in a band. You're like, girl, your roster's Red flag band member.

48:33Brett Rossi Anyways, he was a band member that wore a wig and then he, bass. Okay. Yeah. He was in steel panther, which like, not like it's a big deal, but anyway, so we were coming home from a bar and he lived down the street. We would walk and, I was wearing a dress and I was like, yo, can you bend me over this hot dumpster

48:50Alexis Texas and this fucking end so we... Did anybody see?

48:52Brett Rossi I don't know. Don't care. It was in the I dark don't remember honestly. We were kind of blasted.

48:59Alexis Texas So you just wanted a quick pump. The thrill of being Have ever

49:02Brett Rossi done that?

49:03Alexis Texas Behind a dumpster? No. I peed behind a dumpster.

49:05Brett Rossi Do I look like I'm trapped?

49:08Alexis Texas No. I mean, that's not even... I'm not even going about that. I mean, I peed behind one, but don't think I'd get as turned on. But the public place thing, I understand that.

49:17Alexis Texas More of the adrenaline rush of went like through

49:20Brett Rossi the face, but now I'm like, no, I don't need that case. I don't want these problems.

49:29Alexis Texas Okay. Let's see a couple more and then we will be done with you. Let's see. Have you ever given advice to a friend that you absolutely refuse to follow yourself? Dude, that's like my mantra.

49:42Brett Rossi I am the best person to give advice. So what is some advice that you

49:46Alexis Texas would give to a friend? You know About dating. We'll say dating.

49:50Brett Rossi Well, first of all, if you're chasing them around Yeah. And you're putting more effort in, they gotta go. Like they gotta go. Okay. You can't be you can't be the one that's putting all the effort in.

50:01Alexis Texas I agree with that. My new motto right now is if you don't have a white horse or a helicopter outside, I don't want it. Because you're not showing any effort. It's not even about the tangible things, it's about the effort of what you need to do as a...

50:12Brett Rossi Doing all the driving you?

50:14Alexis Texas I did yell at somebody recently and then they were like, well what what it turns or what what what did they tell how they word that right? I think they said, well what do you like? And I said, why is it all these men these days want me to give you the blueprint? Why don't you do the recon yourself and figure it out? Yeah.

50:27Alexis Texas And then I'll tell you if

50:28Brett Rossi I like Rico you a case bitches. I don't know

50:31Alexis Texas about going that far, but Yeah.

50:33Brett Rossi You're right. Especially like Rico is not derogatory.

50:37Alexis Texas I feel like it's That's how

50:38Brett Rossi you get stalkers. Yeah.

50:39Alexis Texas We don't want those No. Don't

50:40Brett Rossi want those.

50:41Alexis Texas Stay away from miss Texas. Yeah. I do own a gun. Thanks.

50:43Brett Rossi So do I. What kind of gun you have?

50:45Alexis Texas You know, it's special, and it's a nine millimeter.

50:47Brett Rossi Oh, have a CZ Shadow too. I used to do competitions.

50:50Alexis Texas Oh, see. Never competition. It was more after COVID and all the riots and things going on here that I was like, I need to protect myself. And I'm a Texas bitch. I ain't afraid of a gun.

50:58Alexis Texas Yeah. So I went to the shooting range, purchased my own. Me and Nikki Bens actually Oh, really? She was the one who told me that I should go and do that. And that was the best advice though.

51:06Brett Rossi Yeah. I think every bitch should have a gun.

51:08Alexis Texas That's the

51:08Brett Rossi best. That's my man.

51:10Alexis Texas So what is your... What you'd say is your... That people say that is your best quality in Like, do you have... Like, are you... What is...

51:18Alexis Texas What are

51:18Brett Rossi you known for? I'm, like, a giver.

51:21Alexis Texas Okay.

51:22Brett Rossi Yeah. And I really like to suck I know girls are like, yeah. I'm a firm believer that if if a girl doesn't like sucking, they're going to suck. You have to be passionate about that. I'm a very passionate person.

51:35Brett Rossi Like I want swallow. Oh, I'll swallow it all day. I don't even care. I mean, it depends. Like, we, are we doing face painting or like, it depends on the mood.

51:43Brett Rossi You So you're know? Open for it all? Yeah. But I'd like to swallow because that's how you tell the man's got it going on.

51:50Alexis Texas What makes his It just tastes good. So if it tastes bad, he doesn't have it going on.

51:56Brett Rossi Yeah. There's something wrong with him. It's probably the devil telling me to stay away from him. I'm pretty sure it's called diet, but it's... Whatever.

52:03Brett Rossi You know, yeah.

52:04Alexis Texas You're okay. That's fine. You know, whatever. I like that. Okay.

52:09Alexis Texas So last question. If you could have your dream scene, you don't shoot any longer, but if you you could be old school, it doesn't have to be that they're they're shooting actively. It could just your dream scene. What would that be for us?

52:21Brett Rossi Dude, I'm

52:22Alexis Texas gonna Take get a picture.

52:23Brett Rossi I'm gonna get so much flack, man. But I liked when James Deama me. Okay. Like, know people are like, whatever. But I had a good experience with him.

52:30Brett Rossi And you know who I wish I could again? Johnny Sins. We did a scene together and I don't know what the He's very like, he's kind of a mute offset, at least for people he doesn't know. But dude, when we were I was like, hello? And it sucked because it was like a stupid VR scene.

52:45Alexis Texas So you can't really

52:46Brett Rossi But, dude, let me tell you.

52:48Alexis Texas You gotta run the back. I know. Johnny Sense is one of my favorite. He definitely is like, you just know what you're gonna get.

52:55Brett Rossi Yeah. He's just I hit him up, Dude, I heard him in a song one day, a Lizzo song. Oh. I texted him actually like a couple months ago. I'm yo, you know you're in the...

53:03Brett Rossi It was a Lizzo song and she referenced Johnny Sims? Yeah. She's like, yo, like Johnny Sims. She was talking about like riding it or whatever. Oh.

53:10Brett Rossi And I was like, and I text him. I'm like, yo, you know, you're in this song. And he goes, I am. I'm like, don't play stupid. You know, Lizzo.

53:17Brett Rossi No. I'm sorry. Will anybody. And you know what? Good.

53:22Brett Rossi He deserved that. He needs to share that penis.

53:25Alexis Texas I mean, it's great. Share it around.

53:27Brett Rossi For now, man. And I'm not a big fan of big, but that's like good. I

53:32Alexis Texas love that. I think that's a good way to end truth with Texas. Is there anything you wanna ask miss Texas? Yeah. Yeah.

53:38Alexis Texas Let's hear So like I like how your

53:41Brett Rossi voice changed. Yeah. What is it like to be like a real life doll? Like, I have a doll? Like, what do you mean?

53:49Brett Rossi No. Like, you just look like a doll. So one thing... I don't know what it is, but every time I'm at Exotica, for some reason, her booth is always directly across from like my booth and I just My boots are fun, but I know it is. You're doing like the things and the things and the music and the weird ass doll that looks just like you.

54:06Alexis Texas That's why was thinking I was As

54:07Brett Rossi like long as you're talking to know what's funny? I... Last time I saw your doll, I saw it chilling there. I don't know where you guys were. You were gone.

54:13Brett Rossi And I was like, how sad? She's by herself. And I'm like, wait a minute. Why is she by herself? She shouldn't be left unattended.

54:19Brett Rossi And then I was like, oh, it's a

54:20Alexis Texas creepy doll. It's funny because Keilani Lay, she was like, we... It was at the Do you

54:24Brett Rossi know I

54:25Alexis Texas and she was like... She came up to me later and she was like, girl, I from... I was coming into the convention, I saw you and I ran over and it was your doll and I was like, oh girl, I'm sorry. But because it does... I do have a doll.

54:37Brett Rossi Dude, have the most realistic doll. Some of are... They make a doll of me and I made them return that. I was like, dude, this is ugly. Yours is like creepy.

54:46Alexis Texas My doll is pretty accurately like it to the point where But... I... But I open... So I unboxed it and and I was gonna do an unboxing video, but I couldn't because I was so scared and my reaction was so like... I...

54:58Alexis Texas You're like, what? I did. That's exactly what I did because you open it and like the head comes attached, which that wasn't the scary part, but I'm opening it and you just see my torso, my leg, and my and I'm like, that looks like my... It was exact... I was like looking at yourself in a box that I was just like, like it just looks so real.

55:15Alexis Texas But she's a big bitch. She's definitely very heavy. She has to be carried in with a hand cart because she's like you cannot carry her by herself like... Could you imagine her? I've tried to make men but they get freaked out about it like...

55:27Alexis Texas You know you'd be a 100%. Well, no. I'm like in person, like my personal and I'm like would you her with me like the other three But of they... Nobody's nobody's said yes yet. Goddamn it.

55:37Alexis Texas But as far as the reaction of being a doll, I don't really think I'm a doll. I also feel like I do. I'm very... I will say that the older I've gone in, I've always been a girly girl. I've always been in dance, ballet.

55:48Alexis Texas I've always done in, like, the makeup. Like, my sisters were more the tomboys, which I did sports and everything too, but I was just always in dresses and all the things like that. So for me, it's just like, it's fun. I like to dress up. I like to be girly.

56:01Alexis Texas I like to wear makeup. I like the fashion. I like that's also why

56:04Brett Rossi I'm taking stories. Time I've seen you, like Yeah. At events or whatever because I feel like we'll be at the same event and I see you from afar, and you always just have, like, this presence of, like, just a classy Thank classy

56:18Alexis Texas you. I appreciate it. For me, I feel like I started a long time ago. Started in the industry in 2000... Or end of two thousand and six, 2007 era.

56:28Alexis Texas But for me at the time, as I went to the conventions, I had the booty shorts and the lingerie, where like at a certain point that was cute, but it's also like we elevate and you know we get older. I'm 41 now. So for me it's I like don't also know

56:40Brett Rossi I was hanging out with my tits

56:41Alexis Texas Not even about that, but it's like almost less is more and like those people are already there buying or buying our stuff, so why advertise it like that? Now I still look sexy, I still look good, and I'm giving you what... Who I am and what I encompass, and that to me is like the more of my brand of where I kinda bring it, even especially with the podcast. It's about your work doesn't define you, but it's also like showcasing who I am as a person. Like I love fashion.

57:03Alexis Texas I love being dressed up. I like... I guess in the doll aspect of those things and and looking good and feeling good. And I feel like when you do that, you bring that energy on. So people wanna have fun at the booth.

57:13Alexis Texas They wanna be, like, shake their ass and do all the things.

57:15Brett Rossi And so

57:15Alexis Texas for me, it just it just all works. It just is... Yeah. It's just miss Texas. I don't know.

57:20Alexis Texas So Well,

57:20Brett Rossi you're lucky. You look like a doll. Thanks, mom and dad. Thanks, mom and dad.

57:25Alexis Texas But, yeah, that's that's me. That's me. Is that your only question?

57:29Brett Rossi Yeah, man. I just... I keep staring at her like a creepy weirdo. Like, when I walked in, she was wearing this little yellow dress, and I was like, oh, I should have dressed up. Like, I was like,

57:39Alexis Texas I'm being put

57:40Brett Rossi She's like, I was just trying this on. Like, it's so casual in the the mansion.

57:44Alexis Texas Like We're in Bel Air, baby. You know, you gotta do it big. Everything's bigger in Texas, know, and Miss Texas, it's just... My motto before was go big or go home, and Miss Texas never went home. I came to Bel Air.

57:56Alexis Texas That's where I want. It. Well, thank you so much for being a part of it. I appreciate that we finally got to have a conversation. I know.

58:02Alexis Texas More Brett Rossi of all that you are encompassing, I appreciate you being your vulnerability, talking to me about things that I probably don't know if you've ever spoken about or that I've gotten out of you, but I appreciate your vulnerability and just kind of just sharing with us your story.

58:15Brett Rossi Thank you

58:16Alexis Texas so Where can we follow you? Where can we support you? Let us

58:19Brett Rossi know. You can follow me on Instagram. I'm brettrossi. The letter I, the letter m.

58:24Alexis Texas Yes. Brett Rossi. Get it right.

58:25Brett Rossi Yeah. Get it right or get it tight. But honestly, you can just Google me. It's fine. Actually, nah.

58:31Brett Rossi Maybe don't Google me because then you'll find up some weird... Unless you're into weird shit.

58:36Alexis Texas I don't know. You'll know. We'll we'll tell you where to

58:38Brett Rossi find But bratrosse.com is, like,

58:40Alexis Texas the best place. Alright. I love it. Thank you so much. Thank you.

58:42Alexis Texas And until we meet again.